Jan082009
Blue Moon of Kentucky, Keep on Shinin’
Filed under Social by Kim at 10:52 pm on Jan 08 2009
That’s my favorite thing to hear Elvis sing. Tonight I went out with 2 of my ladies for an Elvis birthday dinner. Cuban food on Elvis day! I don’t know why.
We had a good long talk about adult friendships and about how we have some nostalgia about the way friendships were when your geography was limited to your neighborhood or your college campus. Back when your time seemed like it was there for the sheer purpose of bonding. It was asked, does anyone carry on that kind of friendship into adulthood, when there are partners, kids, and honest-to-god careers in full swing? I am confident people do, I’m sure I know some of them. I also feel like I could be capable – emotionally anyways – of carrying on that kind of friendship.
It’s difficult to think about the implications of that conversation. It seems simple – reach out and speak when it feels right, listen when a friend is talking. Slow down a little. When I’m really paying attention to what’s going on (in this case in an interaction with a friend) instead of looking at how things will shape up later or agonizing about how things played out in the past then I feel like… I’m trying to think of a good way to put it. It’s like walking at normal speed toward a destination that becomes clearer instead of staying far away and trying to look at the destination while squinting, or running headlong at the destination creating a bouncing, moving image.
Yeah, it’s not the best way of putting it. I gotta work on that. (Expressing myself AND being a friend.)
1 Jenn P.on 09 Jan 2009 at 12:50 pm
I loved this post! I have been thinking alot about old friends that I haven’t contacted in awhile and it’s just the thing to really kick me in the bum and get me going! =)
Thanks also for the organizing blog recommend – I love it and have added it to my list of blogs to follow!
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2 Kimon 09 Jan 2009 at 3:41 pm
Awesome, glad I could help with your organizing reading materials.
And thanks for stopping by. I know so many people get in touch with friends of old over Facebook and things nowadays – but I have been having a hard time getting a real feeling out of it. I miss sitting around face to face with folks!
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3 Jenn P.on 09 Jan 2009 at 3:54 pm
Facebook has been AMAZING for me.. I have found so many people.. people I hadn’t even thought about tracking down, which I think is even more fun!
I agree that with the face to face contact though. Nothing is more fun that a group of old friends catching up around a good meal. =)
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